How to Get a Blowjob: 12 Secret Techniques to Get Her to Enjoy It

If there’s one thing all guys want to know, it’s how to convince a woman to give you head. But don’t worry, here’s how to get a blowjob.

I know quite a few guys, and have grown up with many as friends. And if there’s one thing I know from my time spent surrounded by them, it’s that all guys want a blowjob. It’s like that extra special thing they can get from a woman that makes them feel on top of the world.

Another thing I’ve learned, however, is that they have no idea how to make it happen. They think that by whipping out their man piece, the girl will just magically want to put it in her mouth. Well, guys, it just doesn’t work like that.

Why girls don’t like giving blowjobs

Now, not all girls don’t like it. Some actually enjoy going down on their man and giving them a good time. But it’s common for girls to avoid it because they just don’t really enjoy it much. They don’t find it to be fun or rewarding in any way.

They don’t like it for a variety of reasons. Mostly, they dislike it because it doesn’t give them anything. They usually aren’t turned on by it, so they don’t see it as a means to get something themselves. Other girls don’t like them because they don’t want their mouth on something that is less than sanitary.

How to get a blowjob

All of that being said, girls will obviously still do it. Just because they don’t like it doesn’t mean they’ll refuse to do it forever. There just has to be a reason for them to. They won’t just do it on their own – most of the time.

That means you need to know what to do or say in order to make it happen. If you have horrible luck getting your girl to go down on you, these are some tips to help convince her to give you a little something extra.

#1 Make it a trade. Don’t just ask her to give you a blowjob if you won’t be doing anything in return. Make it sort of a trade deal. You can use anything as a trade. Tell her you’ll take her out somewhere nice, or even go down on her – which is the best idea if you really want to know how to get a blow job. [Read: Cunnilingus pro – 16 ways to use your tongue and blow her mind]

#2 Be well-behaved. This isn’t just in the bedroom. You have to behave outside of the bedroom in the relationship as a whole if you want your girl to give you a good blowjob… if any at all.

If she’s always mad at you, or thinks you’re being a bad boyfriend, there’s no way she’s going to reward you for it. So be a great boyfriend/husband/friend with benefits. Whatever it is you two have going on, be good.  [Read: 15 traits that’ll make you the perfect boyfriend material]

#3 Show her it can be a good time. She probably doesn’t want to do it because it seems boring. Make her realize that blowjobs could be fun for her too. Get in a position where you can stimulate her at the same time, and in fact, make a game of it.

If she does something that feels great on you, show her just how great it is by making her feel the same. This will not only make it more interesting, but she’ll learn what you like best for the next time. It’s a win-win really.

#4 Make sure to please her equally. If you want to know how to get a blowjob, don’t ever forget this one. There is no way a girl will continue to go down on you if you can’t make her finish.

This doesn’t even have to be by you going down on her. If she’s going to be give you a blowjob, the least you can do is work hard to make her finish. [Read: How to make a girl orgasm every single time – 15 secrets to master the art]

#5 Talk about how amazing it was the last time she gave you one. If your girlfriend was a trooper and has given you one before, the best way to make her do it again is by talking about how amazing and fantastic it was.

By telling her how good she was at it, she’ll want to make you see her in that light again, and she’ll most likely go down on you. Just don’t overkill it or she’ll suspect you’re lying just to get some.

#6 Be gentle with her. When she’s actually down on you, don’t be really rough – especially if she’s not into that or she’s not thrilled about it. Be gentle with her and be patient. If she feels like you actually value the blowjob, she’ll be more likely to do it.

#7 Be sweet to her out of the bedroom. You can’t just be nice when the topic is on sex and expect her to give you what you want. You have to be sweet and giving to her in other aspects of the relationship. Take her out to a nice dinner, let her pick the movie, and just be a sweet person in general. And then she’ll be more willing to do something nice for you.

#8 Give a warning when you… uh… finish. This ensures your girl will be down to get down again in the future. Nobody likes to be surprised, and this is especially true if she’s not the type to go down on you regularly. [Read: Lick, suck, swallow – 20 sizzling blow job hacks you have to discuss with your girl]

What not to do

Even though I just gave you a whole list of ways to actually get a blowjob, I know a few of you will try your other methods, and I would advise that you not do that. Here are a few ways to ruin your chances of ever getting head again.

#1 Push her head down there silently. This is the WORST way of trying to get a blowjob. Ultimately, it’ll probably result in her leaving or refusing to even have sex. It’s annoying, degrading, and just a turn off. Avoid doing it.

#2 Expect it. If you remember nothing else about how to get a blowjob, remember this one. Never expect that she’s going to do it.

When you drop your pants and stand there with your hands on your hips waiting, she’ll be annoyed. She’ll also be appalled that you just expect her to do something like that for you with nothing in return. [Read: Female confessions – The feeling of oral sex for women]

#3 Ask her why she never does. Don’t just sit there badgering her about why she won’t do it. Maybe she has her own reasons for disliking it. Maybe her gag reflex is horrific and she can barely even brush her teeth without an issue.

Bottom line, if you want to know how to get a blowjob, don’t ask her why she won’t if she refuses. Just let it go and try again in a while *not the next day*. [Read: How to talk about sex without sounding like a pervert]

#4 Talk about an ex who “always did.” If you want to not get a blowjob AND end up single, this is the way to do it. No girl ever wants to hear about past girls you’ve hooked up with, ESPECIALLY if they did something you liked *and she isn’t*.

This will make her furious, and chances are, she’ll never give you a blowjob again if you complain like this. Who cares what your ex did? Your new girl hasn’t, but she will if you use the methods mentioned above. Not this one.

[Read: 16 ways to get your girl to give you head and like it]

Ultimately, girls make their own decisions, and if she really doesn’t want to go down on you, that’s up to her. But if you’re sly enough and nice enough, use these techniques for how to get a blowjob.

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