Does He Care About Me? 15 Subtle Things That Prove He Really Does

Are you having a hard time figuring out the question, does he care about me? These are 15 things that prove he really does.

Back in the day, if a guy called you and threw his arm around you while walking down the street, you knew he cared about you. Nowadays, it’s much harder to tell if a guy is into you and cares, or if he’s just being nice to get some action. If you’re left wondering, does he care about me? maybe he’s just a nice guy, and it’s impossible to tell. We have 15 tips to prove he does.

People become more and more cryptic in the ways they show they care. Truth be told, some people also do certain things to make you think they care when they don’t give a crap about you. This makes it difficult to determine if the guy you’re seeing really does care or if it’s all just an act.

Manipulative guys ruined it for the good ones

Let’s be real here. Before guys figured out that they could just pretend to be nice in order to get with a girl, it was way easier to tell the good from the bad. Now, ladies look at a kind, sweet guy and think, “he must just be faking it,” because of how many times we’ve run into the manipulative types. [Read: The nice guy syndrome – 16 reasons why girls find them boring]

Those guys who toyed with our feelings and made us think they cared ruined it for all the genuinely nice and good guys out there. Instead of being happy that a guy shows kindness and care, we become skeptical.

Does he care about you?

Determining whether a guy actually cares about you, or if they’re just playing the part to get a little something from you can be really hard. After, you’ll be able to weed out the manipulators from the truly great guys out there.

If you’ve found yourself with a seemingly good guy and keep asking yourself, “does he care about me?”—you’re in the right place. These different ways show you if a guy actually cares about you.

#1 He listens and offers advice. This is definitely going to be a hard one to actually figure out. A lot of guys perfect pretending to listen while not actually being engrossed in the conversation or your concerns at all.

The trick is to see if he gives you any advice. If he actually offers realistic solutions to your problems, then he really paid attention. He actually wants to make things better for you. This shows he cares. [Read: 10 sneaky techniques guys use to get into your pants]

#2 He remembers the seemingly unimportant things. Not every guy is going to remember you can’t stand cold pizza and warm it up for you before even serving it. If he remembers the little things you didn’t even realize were important to you, then he really cares.

#3 He gets excited when you are. This is something really easy to tell if a guy cares about you. If you’re really amped about a job you applied for or a promotion, and he gets just as excited as you, he cares. When your happiness becomes his, that’s when you know he cares for real. [Read: Does he or doesn’t he? 30 guaranteed signs he really likes you]

#4 He goes to you for advice. Guys aren’t really the type to seek out advice. Most of them just want to deal with things on their own. That being said, if your guy is seeking out your opinion and advice, he really cares about you and what you have to say.

#5 When you seem distraught, he cancels plans to help you. There are times when ladies break down. We can’t deal with something, and we sort of freak out. If your guy sees this and cancels whatever plans he has—unless it’s something he paid a lot of money for—then he cares. [Read: The 20 qualities in a guy that make him a really good man]

#6 He introduces you to his friends and family. Friends and family are actually really important to guys. If he feels you’re ready to step in and meet the most important people in his life, you are now one of the most important people.

#7 He uses “we.” When he talks about you two together, instead of saying things like “you and me,” he uses the word “we.” He cares. When he starts seeing the two of you as a unit and start vocalizing you as such, he proves just how much he cares.

#8 He asks about your day and actually pays attention. Asking about someone’s day is kind of something we do out of habit. “Hi, honey, how was your day?” Then we go on with a different discussion. But if he’s asking questions and showing concern about certain things that happened, he truly cares. [Read: 14 clear signs he genuinely likes being around you]

#9 He tries to fix things after a fight. Some guys get into an argument with you and then disappear without even caring to make it better. If he’s trying to talk things out with you and come to a solution, he really cares about you and your relationship.

#10 He makes an effort with your family and friends. If your friends and family are really important to you, he’ll make them important to him as well. If he invites himself on your family functions and makes a point to get to know your friends, he definitely cares about you.

#11 He sacrifices his own happiness for yours. This isn’t to say that he makes you his pride and joy and forgets about anything that he likes or makes him happy. This is to say that if he isn’t super thrilled to go see a certain movie but you’re dying to, he goes anyways. Doing things like that shows a guy cares about you.

#12 He’s very understanding. Guys who care about you are going to take the time to understand where it is you’re coming from. Even if they think you’re being unreasonable *even a little crazy*, they sit and talk with you until they get what it is that’s bothering you. A guy who does this is truly caring. [Read: 25 signs he truly loves you even if he hasn’t said it out loud]

#13 He doesn’t lie—even if it’ll hurt you. No matter what, he’s honest with you. Someone who really cares doesn’t lie just because he knows the truth with hurt. He tells the truth because he knows he must if he wants a successful relationship and lies hurt worse in the long run.

#14 He’s not possessive. Many people—especially young girls—have a habit of thinking possessive behavior means they care about you a lot. This is not right. A guy who cares about you wants you to have your freedom. He’ll want you to go out and have fun. He won’t hold you back. [Read: 15 subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend]

#15 He’s not selfish in the bedroom. This is a huge one. Even if he seems all sweet and kind outside of the bedroom, if he doesn’t care about you getting off, he doesn’t care much at all. Sex is important in a relationship. It’s definitely a time to see just how much someone cares for you. If he works just as hard for you as you do for him—if not harder—then he really cares.

[Read: Does he love me? 20 sure signs to read his mind]

Knowing if a guy really cares about you or if he’s just faking it all can be hard to decipher. With these signs that prove he cares, you’ll know a good guy versus a bad.

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