So How’d This Become A Friendly Sort Of Date?

Dear Seeker of Success,

Ever asked a woman out, to have her say “Sure, I’ll go with you, as friends”?

For those of you who meet women on “dating” sites, have you ever messaged a woman for the very first time, only to have her respond (without any conversation with you): “I’ll let you know upfront that I’m not interested, but we can talk as friends.”

Recently, a student of mine asked a woman, “I have two tickets to the game this weekend. If I were to ask you to be my date, what would your response be?”

Her response, “I would accept, just as friends though.”

Wha…Wha…WHAT? Huh?
Run That By Me Again?

So how did this potential ride on the baloney pony turn into a “friendly” “date”?

What did she mean when she said “… just as friends?”

It all starts with that word… the “D” word… date.

As Speed Seducers, don’t we want to AVOID all the “dating” terminology and thought patterns?

All the auto-pilot responses that “dating” triggers in her mind?

Rather than ask what she “means” I would ask:

What Thought Process Did It Spark Inside Her?

What autopilot ways of thinking went off in her head in response to “date”?

Probably she thought,

“Oh oh…date means he EXPECTS I’ll f@@k him. Well, I WANT to f@@k him, I HOPE I f@@k him, but I don’t want to feel PRESSURED to f@@k him. Am I really ready to f@@k ANYONE? Jeremy hurt me so bad last time. Why are men such jerks? I wonder what Tanya will think…I should text her right now and get HER opinion. Oh wait a minute, she just went to visit her boyfriend in rehab after he beat her up and got arrested by the cops. That cop who is always at Starbucks in the morning is hot. I bet he f@@ks good. Dad said never to date a cop, I bet it would be fun…”

Etc etc etc.

Are you getting my point?

Are you catching my drift?

Stop playing dumb and stop being afraid to take a bold step forward. Breathe into the image of you who GETS IT and DOES IT.

And then DO IT.

With her.

Peace,

RJ

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