Friday, December 30, 2016

Don’t Demand… Don’t Despair…

Dear Seeker of Success,

I firmly believe that your “Inner Game” is a huge (if not the most important) element for your success with women.

Now, there are lots of elements of Inner Game.

So many so, that may do a series on it. (Comment below if you’d like that).

But in my 28 yrs of teaching, I’ve discovered two attitudes that scuttle/ruin most guys from really making big leaps toward the success with women they truly want.

They are the two extremes of demanding on the one hand, and despairing on the other.

Demanding essentially translates into feeling you are entitled to success with women.  Holding on to this attitude generates resentment, impatience, and, perhaps most deadly, devastates your ability to learn from your experiences. And that means you are screwed when it comes to honing the skills you need to make the big leaps.

Despairing is just as bad.  It means clinging on to the old experiences of defeat, failure and inconsolable sadness that is mostly comprised of self-talk like, “I am a failure with women” or “What’s the point? I’ll only get rejected.”

Even worse, it will cause you to review your “failures” over and over again, thus reprogramming them back into your brain.

Sucks, huh?

Now, the most confusing aspect of all of this is that guys who are really stuck often bounce back and forth between the two bad attitudes.  One minute they are demanding. The next they are despairing.

In between these two attitudes lays the delicious, fertile place of new possibilities and  beyond success with women, walking through the world and sculpting your own experience.

To reach that place is not easy.

The journey there is one of courage, a willingness to risk, and a motivation that is realistic and makes sense for you.

I’m honored to help you along as you do so.

If this post has touched you please comment below and spread the word as well.

May 2017 be the year your rock your world.  And the worlds of the women you truly desire.

Peace,

RJ

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